My wife has never read my blog. We’ve been married 25 years, and I guess she’s heard all the stories and all my opinions. When I told her I was starting a blog, she said “One of those things full of trivial bullshit that no one wants to read?” Indeed.
Communication is the key to a strong marriage, so I have asked her on occasion if there is a topic which would interest her. She always says the same thing. I should write something about men’s swimsuits. No, that’s not a typo. That’s what she wants to read about. She used to work in the clothing business, so I suppose fashion will always interest her. Here goes.
Although I am a man, I am not an expert on men’s swimsuits. Like most heterosexual men, I try not to look at men in swimsuits, out of an irrational concern that they may see me looking at them and get the wrong impression. The worst case scenario would be that an especially attractive man might cause some sort of shift in my sexual orientation. My ignorance, you see, knows no limits.
But, what of swimsuits? Why are they called “suits?” They aren’t suits at all. I’m lawyer, and to me a suit is a coat and matching slacks, cotton shirt and silk tie with a Windsor knot. Add a smart belt (matching one’s shoes, of course), and you have a suit. I would never swim in such attire.
Back in more modest times, folks tended to cover up quite a bit when swimming. No one was tempted to take indecent liberties with the young ladies of the day. I don’t know if the same could be said of the men:
What kinds of swimsuits are there? What should YOU wear? Personally, I prefer basic trunks–not too long, not too short. Conservative is the byword for your author.
Of course, others prefer the Speedo-type swimsuit. The small, tight swimsuit is known as the Speedo, although there are many different brands. Regardless, this is definitely NOT a suit. It’s more of a slim-fit loin cloth. Whether you call them Nut-Huggers, Tool Bags or Junk Slings, the form-fitting racing suit is not for everyone. Some would suggest that they are not for anyone.
I’ve only known one guy who wore Speedos. He was a co-worker of mine and a bit of an odd bird. We belonged to the same neighborhood pool. He would show up in his lime green Speedos. I would pretend I didn’t know him.
Needless to say, most men suffer from varying degrees of superfluous body hair. The Speedo will only draw attention to this evolutionary mishap. It also will accentuate certain body flaws such as, for example, a hideous or undeveloped physique.
Body image is the biggest problem with Speedos. Men just don’t see themselves accurately. Here is how we think we look:
Sadly, here is how we really look:
It’s just best to leave the Speedos to the Olympics.
Then, there is so-called boxer swimsuit which combines the worst of trunks and Speedos:
Again, note that no one looks like this dude. I’m not sure who can wear these. Maybe the same guy who can wear these:
Good taste prevents me from showing examples of thongs or more revealing unitard swimwear. Suffice to say that no woman is interested in seeing your hairy ass hanging out of your swimsuit. Just because we men like to see women dressed like that (hairy ass or not) doesn’t mean women find the same thing appealing.
When you get right down to it, swimwear is nothing more than underwear worn for swimming. In fact, most swimwear contains a lining which acts as an underwear of sorts. Women may not be aware of this, but it’s true. I don’t think women’s swimwear is like that, but it might be.
Don’t confuse your underwear choice with your swimwear. Personally, I am a briefs man. The boxer brief is also good. Nevertheless, this is not appropriate for my beach attire. (See illustrations above).
You might be a boxer man. If so, I pity you because your underwear is nothing more than a loose-fitting lining providing no support or comfort. In essence, it is simply a prophylactic barrier between your clothes and whatever foul discharges your body emits. It’s just another layer of clothes. The boxer lacks both function and originality.
Oddly enough, though, this same style is ideal for swimming. It is loose-fitting and modest enough that there are no embarrassing revelations. The swim trunk contains the aforementioned lining, too; thus, it is a functional swimsuit plus effective underwear. The lining, being similar to the classic brief, provides the needed protection plus practicality. It is the best of all worlds. You can’t go wrong.
Some men do the unthinkable and wear swim trunks AND underwear. My sons do this. Why? I don’t know. The redundancy is obvious. There is no point to it, so I guess you can go wrong.
Regardless of one’s personal taste (or lack thereof), due regard should be given to your choice in swimwear. Here are several factors to consider in choosing your swimwear:
- Body hair: The more you have, the more you should conceal it.
- Abs: You don’t have them. Don’t make a point of proving it.
- If you are a competitive swimmer, the Speedo is for you. That’s it. No one else. Even then, confine that look to the racing pool.
- Be considerate of others, especially your family. One embarrassing incident can haunt them for a life time.
- Just because you think you look good in your underwear doesn’t mean you’ll look good in a similar swimsuit.
- Walk around your house in your underwear. Gauge the reaction of your family. That’s the same reaction they’ll have at the beach.
- Better yet, wear your underwear in your yard. Get your neighbors’ input.
- T Shirts are acceptable swimwear, too. Examine your physique in a full length mirror and do the right thing.
- Anything that fits snuggly is likely a bad look for you. Trust me.
- Nude beaches are off-limits. Just know this: The only people who frequent nude beaches are those we do not want to see nude. This includes you.
Now, my wife can read my blog knowing that I have contributed at least one worthwhile post. Plus, this should help her when shopping for our vacation. Something tasteful, of course–maybe in a mesh?